Thursday, August 26, 2010

Making Sense

As if to compensate for a rather uneventful July, the month of August felt like eating an eight-course dinner in fast-forward mode.

Celebrations, trip, missed celebrations, YOG, singing exam. Mostly good things in fact.


Until the Aug 23 tragedy that happened in the Philippines that is. An invisible blanket carrying the mourning people's tears seems to have descended on the enclave of Hong Kong people in Singapore. In the midst of angry people quick to assign blame, media reports on the survivors' families, people defending the dignity of their race and lashing back, it's hard to find a place of sense to put an opinion or sentiment anywhere.

The more you read, the more depressing it feels. Facts get digested to effect emotions and there's no mood to do much. Maybe it's true. It's time to detach from these stories for a while. People who need counselling should get it over and done with. People who hate the whole country's system should not be so naive as to want to take on the establishment. Who are they to judge. Condemn the sin, since the sinner resides way out of reach, up high in the blame game. And at the end of the search you may not be able to uncover a single face to it.

Let there be love, mourn for the loss. Leave hate out of the equation. That's all I ask.

Friday, August 13, 2010

Back from the Cat City

For a city that is named after a favourite household pet, I was rather disappointed when I left Kuching without catching sight of a single cat. With a history of being under British rule, a Sir James Brooke, Kuching reveals traces of its colonial past in the architecture composed of museums and post office.

Forgoing the plans of what set out to be a brothers-only trip, we made concessions for our dear sister HH and endeavoured not to make things difficult for Gary.

Upon disembarking at the Kuching airport, I saw second-tier highways leading to the city set in a reasonably green milieu of vegetation. Impressive infrastructure, perceivably for a place said to house a mere 600,000 residents. The grey skies helped to provide some comfort from a scorching sun.

While the map on hostelworld has assured me that we are located not far from the waterfront, actually sensing the proximity to the calm waters on the taxi heightened the joy of realizing that our chosen accommodation was well-made. Along the way, we saw live pigs mulling over their uncertain fate in rather cramped quarters. After turning into a rather narrow lane between rows of two-storied shop houses, we alighted right outside our hostel.

With a décor that goes along the theme of rustic Balinese furniture and a red paint job that’s vibrant yet not too intense, Mr Drowsy hostel gave us a run for our money. It didn’t matter all that much to young people like us. At the end of the day, we only returned to catch our forty winks before heading out to take in the sights and sounds of the locale.

The three things worthy of mention are the food, the trip to the Sarawak Cultural Village, and the produce from this rather obscure part of Malaysia.

Being in a consumer-oriented travel group, courtesy of Hungry Gary, we went all-out in the search for the better tasting of the kolo mee in Kuching. Read: we ate many a bowl. From many a stall.

The champion goes to Ryooyi, a black horse in our quest for the best tasting kolo mee in Kuching. Located in a shop house, it was not in the midst of other food stalls, and expectations wasn’t high. The minced meat on top of the noodles provides a subtle salty flavour to accentuate the texture of the noodles as it enters the mouth… It has earned the status of the KL beef noodles.

I would put Kuching’s laksa in between that of Penang’s Assam style and Singapore’s rather heavy style. Its soup is not as thick and saturated as Singapore’s laksa, and not as watery as the assam convention. Ingredients are slightly different as well. Where the Katong laksa serves a bowl with Chinese parsley on top, the Kuching style does not have that. They also do not spoil their customers in Kuching by snipping the noodles into spoon-sized servings.

Seafood dinner at Top Spot was gratifying. Sea bass and squid deep-fried with condensed milk. Not to mention the local fern that the locals stir-fry – a herb called midin. While some may be turned off by the fact that a mucus-like substance resides inside the crunchy stems, it does have a redeeming fragrance about it. OK. Enough of food.

A motif of this trip arose from our visit to the cultural village. In addition to experiencing how 3 tribes of people lived and fought for their turf expansion, we were treated to traditional performances by Sarawakian warriors and maidens. Gary noted how the flailing hands of the womenfolk resembles the gesture for people to “wait a minute”, and it became the accidental highlight of the trip. Throughout dinner and beyond, we imitated the dance move much to the amusement of ourselves, and yet another lady in our group. 

Getting my hands on the traditional instrument found at the longhouse of the Orang Ulu, I realized how fortunate we are to be born in an age of 6-strings, Marshall amplification, and compact analogue effect pedals. Strumming two open notes and being restricted to one single scale at the highest string wasn’t my idea of lead guitar playing. A precursor to the ukulele, perhaps.

Always interesting to see what a country sells in its souvenir shops, above and beyond the traditional woodcraft hand-me-downs. In Kuching, the order of the day was bird’s nest, pepper, and ironically, cat-themed trinkets. In the cultural village, we were walked through the process of grounding pepper, and how black pepper tastes more spicy and is rougher compared to the white pepper which has the pepper seed’s outer layer removed. We also saw a time-lapsed demonstration of separating birds’ saliva from their feathers, and a bleaching process to add that all-important cosmetic touch to the product.

Journeys are always fun. Whether or not you take something back with you is another matter altogether. My main takeaway from this brief yet succinct 3 day 2 night trip is that I should learn to increase my tolerance for the flaws of the human condition even more, especially when faced with such bathos where the eponymous city of Kuching actually has no cats.

Monday, August 02, 2010

Analyse This

What is Your Love Language?
Your Result: Quality Time
 

Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener. Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.
Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many.

Acts of Service
 
Receiving Gifts
 
Physical Touch
 
Words of Affirmation
 
What is Your Love Language?
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Missing Out

In a night, I’ve had the finger pointed at me no less than 3 times. The accusation? I am too cynical. Something about how I always question people’s motives, and was suspected to be in depression. Much as I am used to being misunderstood, I felt a compelling need to clarify myself that night.

You see, sounding rather negative in the projection of things is merely a means of preparing for the worst. PR 101, you prepare for the worst while hoping for the best. Murphy’s always been my best friend. Always been, always will be.

I am merely an optimist learning to be practical in this realistic world. To carry on organizing outings despite being aware of the daunting prospects of poor attendance and no-shows. Instead of accepting things as they are like most people do, and submitting to the fact that everyone’s busy with their own lives and will not bother to turn up. If I were really so bitter about everything, I won’t have gone on to suggest a meet up, would I?

Life’s less-than-kind experiences may have left some of us feeling disillusioned. To that end I plead guilty. Weary about the idea of finding that special someone to spend the rest of your life with, at a tender age of twenty-something. Perhaps that’s not a good way to describe it. Perhaps a better way to put it would simply be, both sides are probably not ready for an arrangement such as marriage yet.

Most men (secretly or not) would want their wives to stay at home and stay out of the world of temptations, once they’re married. To take care of affairs at home and tend to the kids. But at this age, unless there’s backing from parents, it will be largely unwise. How would a middle class family relying solely on the man’s income expect to live comfortably? I cannot fathom the idea of facing the same someone for at least 40 years starting from the tender age of 25. Neither can she I’m sure. Because at a certain age, certain things you just cannot expect a guy to be able to provide.

At the basic level is security. In multiple senses of the word.

Financial security: unless there’s a pot of gold in the family stronghold, most guys won’t be able to be the provider that most of us are programmed biologically to want to do. To feel useful and prove our selves worthy to our mates and folks.

Emotional security: while it is mutually beneficial to be in a long term relationship where you put each other on the priority list, you cannot put aside the thought of having fun out there once in a while. There lies the great temptation to party till the early morning before returning to a fretting other half who felt deserted for one night while you were expending the better part of your youthful energy on the dance floor and inevitably catching the attention of some nubile chick.



So why try so hard, to decide upon someone only to have your heart broken when she flies out of your reach after deciding one day that she deserves better? At this age, no one can promise anything. Correction, at this time and age, nothing can be set in stone anymore. It’s much too easy to hit Control Z in life with seemingly less impact than yesteryear, even the stigma of single parents and divorcees being slowly diluted with help from drama serials that insidiously entrench eroding values into our thoughts.

My heart goes out to you at this moment, if you’re troubled by the end of a “good thing” and it’s causing insomnia and that unstoppable leakage from the tear ducts. When you finally get a grip on yourself, these words will make sense - You deserve better. Much better.

Be more practical, be more careful with who you hand your heart to, but before the elements become right for mating season, why not face affairs of the heart with more optimism, more wariness, more flamboyance and aim to derive more pleasure than pain out of each other’s company?

In other words, can we keep it casual?

Thursday, July 29, 2010

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Win

Success is when preparation meets opportunity.


Don't slack.... too much!

Monday, July 19, 2010

Radio Gaga

After so many non-stop appointments after work, it seems only right to be resting 2 weekends at home just listening to the radio, letting life slow right down. What used to be on power 98 is now on class 95. That’s just a sign of the times.
Here are some songs that were played during those weekends and the sentiments triggered from within when they started:



1.       http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rY0WxgSXdEE This is one of the first songs that got me noticing the existence of this low frequency sound from the bass guitar that could only be heard when I put on earphones. Trusty Sony CD walkman. Previously the radio at home played on speakers and those had raspy interferences and little bass. 

2.       http://bit.ly/9F4nYD -> copy paste. Didn’t use to like ballads and piano songs, much preferred the warm overdriven guitars of Oasis. But this song intrigued me with the blue themed music video and the association with Batman and Robin.

3.       http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CvKs133Udmk The first radio hit I heard was actually Ms Jackson which was rather catchy, but the follow up didn’t disappoint. One of the songs in the hip-hop compilation CD-Rs. Never knew the keyboard could make that sound in the chorus.

4.       http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4YqKeZT5Do This one seems to have a higher pitch but it’s the original video. Original song in another video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YePmikngFRg. Studying at home was best accompanied by songs that make you feel peaceful and yet thought-provoking. You won’t get that with rock songs. Remembered her more for what Rick Dees revealed about her in the Dees Sleaze fashion.

5.       http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g0nKrD5If7U Original music video had something burning if I don’t remember wrongly. Most of the songs stuck in the head mostly because the MTVs were shown on channel 5 between programs. But this instrumental plucking at the beginning caught my attention as well, I thought it didn’t sound quite like a guitar. Didn’t know about the banjo then. Sure sounds like it.

6.       http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zWxzM9_gEo0 2 years before I learnt about the Gothic tradition, I didn’t know how to classify this video. The lone figure and colour scheme and darkness and the hidden trap door. But it stuck in my head for sure.

7.       http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aCca5mPMp9A I thought the DJ was kidding when he introduced this band. That was when Singapore has the 4D and Toto while Hong Kong has Mark 6. Something about the melody and the way the chorus was delivered. The singing has a nice transition from verse to chorus.

8.       http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqTLlHkfSC4 Probably the ‘live’ sets have overwritten all the previously recorded videos of the Eagles, when this version and Hotel California sounded better than the LP. Something about the guitar that gives a tranquil feel, and the soothing voice reassuring you that love will indeed keep you alive. Used to think the guitar part is hard to play, but it’s probably a switch in the string to pluck only.

9.       http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VS0CV_GWEMI Didn’t like it as much as my JC friends used to. But when it played again on radio recently it was like a diamond in the rough that just showed off its radiance after much polishing. Didn’t like it because the singing seemed to come in a irregular timing, never knew the lyrics were packed with imagery that takes you on a trip if you’d just close your eyes and listen.

And I’m looking forward to more radio reminiscing on class 95, less of the iTunes library.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

June's highlights


Office 2010 launch party. Thanks for the pizza Lex.

Ichiban for Father's Day dinner, cheap and good. Must try the wagyu beef hot plate next time.

Bowling contest, got water bottle and electric fan for 4 and 3 continuous strikes ^^

Cat sidles up one evening after work, yay.

Lucky it's not the N95 or I'd have fainted from suffocation. Price to pay for wild trip.

Ultra man thing didn't belong to June, oops.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Change

This post is dedicated to the topic of change. How nothing ever stays in place. Three incidents helped string up this rather strong sentiment of how change can disorientate you from where you thought you were and where you are going to.

Good buddy has strong objections when I suggested running the Kent Ridge Park route instead of our usual campus route on a given Wednesday. The meat of his complaints was why we cannot stick to our usual route, and why things must change. He learnt to cope with that when he realized that one week prior to his departure on an epic Southeast Asia trip, his flight and accommodations are still subject to changes, changes that happen as a result of his travel mates changing their plans.

At the wake of an army friend's mum, I was told that her condition had deteriorated rather rapidly. The thankful thing was that she left them in the early morning. According to the local folklore, this means that the people whom she left behind will be burdened the least. He thought that she would have lasted a bit longer, while he was outside. Little did he know that her health took a change for the worse in that brief moment he left her side.

Things at home. For some reason, when you really want to find something. It will hide behind the bar counter, under the sofa, deep within the piles of paper. It just refuses to be found when you need it. Its location changes contradicting the memory where you thought you knew where it was when you put it there.

Things change, plans change, people move on. Find a mental anchor to make sense of it all, and you'll be safe.

Tuesday, June 01, 2010

Yayness

Finally a jazz performance^^

https://www.alumnet.nus.edu.sg/ContentImages/Upcoming%20events/peabodyjazz.html

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Pondering

Once in a while, do something that scares yourself. So that you have one less thing to be afraid of in the near future. With that I put forth my latest pondering.



How much can i really eat?

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Escape from Chalet, finally

753 photos from Sunday to go through, glad most of them turned out fine, missed some shot ideas but should still be able to pick out some decent shots from there.

Monday, May 17, 2010

Session Eight - Post Processing

Essentials to digest before preparing photos for the couple to print out at their bed or living room:

http://www.larry-bolch.com/dpi-revealed/

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Words into Flesh

By some strange stroke of Providence or higher power or whatever you may choose to think of, thoughts have been translated into action more frequently that I would have anticipated. For one, while I was on my way to the airport with my mum, and thinking about how it will lead to many posts on laomasays, Mr Robot Chow sent a message telling me the exact same thing I was thinking about. So there was little option left but to get to work on taking minutes.

In another occurrence, I was thinking to myself, it's been some time since ebay closed anything for the past months, and then this morning I logged on to find a deal. Are our thoughts really so powerful?

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Session Seven - Wedding Photography Anticipation

With various shot ideas in mind, it is a matter of execution. To prepare for white-outs from strong sunlight for the outdoor setting, I am glad I got my circular polarizer and recently acquired ND 4 filter from HK in time for the wedding.

More visuals, flood my senses with visual inspiration.

http://yesterdaywasgreat.wordpress.com/

Sunday, May 09, 2010

A Hot Cup of Tea

After trying all the delicacies the land of shopping and eating has to offer, I must say, the most important tip I have for the curious explorer in HK is to down the bitter bowl of "24 tastes" herbal tea.

This vile-looking (and even more quaint tasting) concoction of traditional chinese medicine origins is able to pre-empt most flu-like symptoms you may have. After visiting my grandma's grave, and being exposed to the rain, I am glad I downed a full bowl of this before going home.

The result was an unsuccessful attempt on the flu bug to take a shot at my immune system. The swollen eyes and runny nose lasted all of 15 minutes, after which I was up and about again.

Therefore, I encourage you to give it a try!

Friday, April 30, 2010

Mock Up of Jetsaver Challenge

Think of it as tea party without the tea.

Here We Go!

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Wanderlust claims another victim

After being back in Singapore for barely 2 weeks, the hunger is upon me again to travel. Next Monday it's off to Hong Kong to visit my relatives. My choice of airline? Jetstar Asia, because the promotional airfare came at the right time last year.

With the two-to-fly promotion, it was hard to say no to my mother who wanted to go to HK to do some shopping and visit her relatives. I had initially wanted to save my leave for the end of year when discount season is here. It seems the deals were too good to be missed.

Next up, Jetsaver Light Challenge to see if the buddy and I would get to go to Taiwan and do a star jump under the Taipei 101, stuff some stinky tofu at our palates, or even chat up some cute Taiwanese girls who're fortunate enough to meet us while out shopping.

Friday, April 23, 2010

Session Six - Wedding Photography Anticipation

While running the risk of going off-tangent, which happens quite frequently in my life, I am amused by the tips by this photographer on what not to do. Growing up, I've been exposed to many of the wrong practice and there's that need to unlearn what was nurtured to be the right way.

Photographing kids at the venue, about 15 of them according to the groom, would add to the diversity of the album and contribute to the youthful appeal of the newly weds by association with children.

http://om.ly/iahT