Thursday, August 26, 2010
Making Sense
Celebrations, trip, missed celebrations, YOG, singing exam. Mostly good things in fact.
Until the Aug 23 tragedy that happened in the Philippines that is. An invisible blanket carrying the mourning people's tears seems to have descended on the enclave of Hong Kong people in Singapore. In the midst of angry people quick to assign blame, media reports on the survivors' families, people defending the dignity of their race and lashing back, it's hard to find a place of sense to put an opinion or sentiment anywhere.
The more you read, the more depressing it feels. Facts get digested to effect emotions and there's no mood to do much. Maybe it's true. It's time to detach from these stories for a while. People who need counselling should get it over and done with. People who hate the whole country's system should not be so naive as to want to take on the establishment. Who are they to judge. Condemn the sin, since the sinner resides way out of reach, up high in the blame game. And at the end of the search you may not be able to uncover a single face to it.
Let there be love, mourn for the loss. Leave hate out of the equation. That's all I ask.
Friday, August 13, 2010
Back from the Cat City
Monday, August 02, 2010
Analyse This
| What is Your Love Language? Your Result: Quality Time Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared. | |
| Acts of Service | |
| Receiving Gifts | |
| Physical Touch | |
| Words of Affirmation | |
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Missing Out
You see, sounding rather negative in the projection of things is merely a means of preparing for the worst. PR 101, you prepare for the worst while hoping for the best. Murphy’s always been my best friend. Always been, always will be.
I am merely an optimist learning to be practical in this realistic world. To carry on organizing outings despite being aware of the daunting prospects of poor attendance and no-shows. Instead of accepting things as they are like most people do, and submitting to the fact that everyone’s busy with their own lives and will not bother to turn up. If I were really so bitter about everything, I won’t have gone on to suggest a meet up, would I?
Life’s less-than-kind experiences may have left some of us feeling disillusioned. To that end I plead guilty. Weary about the idea of finding that special someone to spend the rest of your life with, at a tender age of twenty-something. Perhaps that’s not a good way to describe it. Perhaps a better way to put it would simply be, both sides are probably not ready for an arrangement such as marriage yet.
Most men (secretly or not) would want their wives to stay at home and stay out of the world of temptations, once they’re married. To take care of affairs at home and tend to the kids. But at this age, unless there’s backing from parents, it will be largely unwise. How would a middle class family relying solely on the man’s income expect to live comfortably? I cannot fathom the idea of facing the same someone for at least 40 years starting from the tender age of 25. Neither can she I’m sure. Because at a certain age, certain things you just cannot expect a guy to be able to provide.
At the basic level is security. In multiple senses of the word.
Financial security: unless there’s a pot of gold in the family stronghold, most guys won’t be able to be the provider that most of us are programmed biologically to want to do. To feel useful and prove our selves worthy to our mates and folks.
Emotional security: while it is mutually beneficial to be in a long term relationship where you put each other on the priority list, you cannot put aside the thought of having fun out there once in a while. There lies the great temptation to party till the early morning before returning to a fretting other half who felt deserted for one night while you were expending the better part of your youthful energy on the dance floor and inevitably catching the attention of some nubile chick.
So why try so hard, to decide upon someone only to have your heart broken when she flies out of your reach after deciding one day that she deserves better? At this age, no one can promise anything. Correction, at this time and age, nothing can be set in stone anymore. It’s much too easy to hit Control Z in life with seemingly less impact than yesteryear, even the stigma of single parents and divorcees being slowly diluted with help from drama serials that insidiously entrench eroding values into our thoughts.
My heart goes out to you at this moment, if you’re troubled by the end of a “good thing” and it’s causing insomnia and that unstoppable leakage from the tear ducts. When you finally get a grip on yourself, these words will make sense - You deserve better. Much better.
Be more practical, be more careful with who you hand your heart to, but before the elements become right for mating season, why not face affairs of the heart with more optimism, more wariness, more flamboyance and aim to derive more pleasure than pain out of each other’s company?
In other words, can we keep it casual?
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
Radio Gaga
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
June's highlights
Office 2010 launch party. Thanks for the pizza Lex.
Ichiban for Father's Day dinner, cheap and good. Must try the wagyu beef hot plate next time.
Bowling contest, got water bottle and electric fan for 4 and 3 continuous strikes ^^
Cat sidles up one evening after work, yay.
Lucky it's not the N95 or I'd have fainted from suffocation. Price to pay for wild trip.
Ultra man thing didn't belong to June, oops.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Change
Good buddy has strong objections when I suggested running the Kent Ridge Park route instead of our usual campus route on a given Wednesday. The meat of his complaints was why we cannot stick to our usual route, and why things must change. He learnt to cope with that when he realized that one week prior to his departure on an epic Southeast Asia trip, his flight and accommodations are still subject to changes, changes that happen as a result of his travel mates changing their plans.
At the wake of an army friend's mum, I was told that her condition had deteriorated rather rapidly. The thankful thing was that she left them in the early morning. According to the local folklore, this means that the people whom she left behind will be burdened the least. He thought that she would have lasted a bit longer, while he was outside. Little did he know that her health took a change for the worse in that brief moment he left her side.
Things at home. For some reason, when you really want to find something. It will hide behind the bar counter, under the sofa, deep within the piles of paper. It just refuses to be found when you need it. Its location changes contradicting the memory where you thought you knew where it was when you put it there.
Things change, plans change, people move on. Find a mental anchor to make sense of it all, and you'll be safe.
Tuesday, June 01, 2010
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Escape from Chalet, finally
Monday, May 17, 2010
Session Eight - Post Processing
http://www.larry-bolch.com/dpi-revealed/
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Words into Flesh
In another occurrence, I was thinking to myself, it's been some time since ebay closed anything for the past months, and then this morning I logged on to find a deal. Are our thoughts really so powerful?
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Session Seven - Wedding Photography Anticipation
More visuals, flood my senses with visual inspiration.
http://yesterdaywasgreat.wordpress.com/
Sunday, May 09, 2010
A Hot Cup of Tea
Friday, April 30, 2010
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Wanderlust claims another victim
Friday, April 23, 2010
Session Six - Wedding Photography Anticipation
Photographing kids at the venue, about 15 of them according to the groom, would add to the diversity of the album and contribute to the youthful appeal of the newly weds by association with children.
http://om.ly/iahT

